() 15 things to know when dating someone with social anxiety disorder 1.It’s not you; it’s them First things first – you’re already dealing with someone who’s beating himself up; the last thing he needs is a partner who does the same! One person’s normal is another person’s panic attack For you, a quick trip to the bank or grocery store may seem like something you can do without batting an eyelid, but for the socially anxious person, this constitutes an ‘event.’ Any kind of social situation that seems mild to regular people is a big deal for an anxious person, simply because there are others involved. What’s sauce for the goose is NOT sauce for the gander Bungee jumping may be fun, but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.
It’s anxiety-inducing for everyone, not to mention socially anxious people!
When the chance for a promotion comes up, you know that they deserve it and can very well get it if they pitch for it.
But therein lies the problem – they don’t see it as an opportunity to move ahead; if anything, they see it as scope for getting rejected and humiliated in the process.
Don’t take an anxious behavior as an indication of the way he or she feels about you; it is only an extension of their inner fears and nothing to do with you. Dancing at a club –more likely to be a popular pastime, but for someone with social anxiety, this is far from fun!
You might think that it’s okay to get anxious for an interview, but a group picnic is fun, right? For socially anxious people, the expectation that an upcoming social event is ‘supposed’ to be fun puts even more pressure on them, building up the anxiety. It’s not as simple as it seems When you’re dating someone, you’re likely to rely on them for small tasks like calling up your phone’s customer support, or returning something to the store.